If you’re self-employed you probably know the feeling when you’re down and you start thinking negative. Reason for that could be one of the following:
“Things are not moving forward. Some things just don’t work out the way you wanted them to. You get a negative response. You get turned down on an offer you made. You’re family & friends don’t support you the way you wish they would.”
Since life is always a back and forth of ups and downs, usually all those things happen at the same time. You’re feeling down.
So you start questioning yourself: “Why am i even doing this? Why doesn’t anybody believe in me? Am i overestimating my abilities? Should i go on?” And of course many other things.
Well that is natural. Nobody is as strong as it might look to others. Everybody has a weak moment and that’s fine.
I think there is a very simple way to overcome that. It relies on a quote from Steve Jobs:
“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”
I don’t want to turn into a Steve Jobs fanatic too much but this quote is really valuable. In my opinion it’s the key for succesful entrepreneurship. If you look at successful people, you will always find this quote in their actions. They believed in “something” and did their best. So you should always ask yourself: “Am i doing the best i can right now?”. If the answer is yes, you’re doing everything right.
The second thing is, they had a goal. It doesn’t have to be a monetary goal. Some people want to make the world a better place. Others want to work with good friends and enjoy their life. Others maybe want to revolutionize the way honey is made (just a recent thing a friend of mine is doing – it’s called urban beekeeping). I’ve heard so many different goals. You should think about this a lot more than you do now. Why are you doing what you’re doing? If it’s for a Ferrari – that’s fine. If it’s for better honey – perfect. But a goal is what gives you the drive to wake-up in the morning. So you should be 100% sure about what your goal is.
If you now combine the two things, there should be no worry: “Do the best you can every day to achieve your goal. That’s what’s on you. Everything else is not.”
There is one more thing. Nowadays everybody is preaching that failure is good and you should embrace it. If you start doing something with that mindset, i think you’re actually going to fail because that’s what you think about from the beginning. Try not to fail! Try as hard as you can not to fail! I agree that if you fail, learn from the mistakes and move on. Don’t worry about it too much. But while doing something you should try not to fail.